So, here's the catch;
I trust myself enough to know that I will not ruin my life.
Every decision I have taken till now, big or small, has been based on some sort of understanding. Sure, I can be rash or impulsive sometimes, but in matters that really do matter, I always analyse the situation to the best of my ability and then make a decision.
I have realized how important it is to stay firm on your decisions. Getting influenced is very easy, and unfortunately, I have made certain decisions, by being influenced by someone else's opinion or thoughts. No matter the outcome of such decisions, I am never satisfied or rather, quite content. The outcome doesn’t feel at all authentic, because the decision was not actually taken by me. It wasn’t taken in the way I wanted to. It seems lacklustre to hold a prize for something I was uncertain of in the first place. Something about it doesn’t quite sit right.
So, one day I sat down and asked myself, “Why do I feel like this?”
The only possible theory I could come up with was that I dislike the fact that a certain decision was taken by me under the influence of someone else. So the outcome doesn’t hold as much significance because the decision wasn’t really mine in the first place. It wasn’t what I had actually wanted. it was based on someone else's thoughts and perspective.
Since then, I have taken every decision in my life on my own and stayed firm on it. I avoid taking decisions when I am drunk. Do I drink? No. But here, by drunk, I mean not really being in the right mindset. I clear myself of all unwanted thought processes and think about what I actually want.
Sometimes, we do need a second opinion from a trusted someone. But come to think of it, at the end of the day, that decision will affect us and not them. They might empathise if they are really good people, but we are the ones who will actually be on the suffering end.
I have had a fair share of toxic friendships that have made me realise that many people don’t want you to succeed. In fact, some will even go out of their way to stop you from prospering. So, I say, f*ck the second opinion.
Whenever I need to make a decision, I contemplate for a while and then decide what I think is the best. I will hold myself accountable if something goes wrong. But at least it was me who made the decision. Nobody else interfered in it.
I think and then decide, so I have no reason to second guess. I don’t feel that there is any need to doubt myself. I must have thought of something while coming to a specific conclusion.
And I feel like that helps us live confident lives.
(Previosuly posted on Blogspot on June 29, 2022)